Community as a Jewel

By Gil Fronsdal

Buddhist practice is supported, nourished, and protected by a community of fellow
practitioners, i.e., the Sangha. This idea is expressed in the notion of Sangha as one
of the three “refuges” for those who walk the path of liberation. Together the three
refuges of Buddha, Dharma and Sangha have such great value they are also known
as the Three Jewels that can provide tremendous inspiration.

Each refuge is equally important, together they are like the three legs of a tripod; to
stand upright each one needs the other two. Even so, there is a tendency in Western
Buddhist circles to emphasize the Buddha and the Dharma. People tend to be much
more interested in the Awakening that is represented by the Buddha, and the
practice and teachings represented by the Dharma. The important role that
community has in a life of practice is often undervalued or overlooked.

Practicing alone can be difficult. Buddhist practice often changes our values and
priorities. The values of virtue, contentment, peace, generosity, love and compassion
that grow out of the practice can be in conflict with the values of consumerism,
ambition, selfishness and insensitivity found in much of our popular culture. A
community of practitioners offers mutual support for living by alternative values
that may be undermined or overshadowed in some areas of our society.

Also, a Buddhist community, especially one with mature and experienced
practitioners, can function as a mirror allowing a person to see themselves more
clearly. This works well when compassionate members of the Sangha­ don’t support
or participate in the many conceits or fear-based attempts for approval-seeking and
personal delusions we may bring to our interactions. When such Sangha members
respond with kindness, wisdom, pauses and wise silence, we may be able to see
more clearly the attachments we have. While this type of mirroring may also come
with feelings of discomfort, the self-understanding it brings is invaluable.

In addition, a Sangha may be the home of people with personal maturity,
compassion, and peace who inspire us in our own practice. They can function as
encouragement to continue practicing when practicing the Dharma is difficult. Their
behavior can provide practical lessons in how to express the values and teachings of
Buddhism in life. We might learn more from watching some of these exemplars
than from reading books on Buddhism. Importantly, it might be in the example of
other practitioners that we gain confidence in how worthwhile and transformative
the path of liberation is.

Of course, other communities besides Buddhist ones can provide helpful mirroring
and modeling. However, there is a dedication that a Buddhist community tries to
live by that may well be different than most other groups. A Sangha is a place where
anyone can come and practice. Everyone interested in the practice is welcome.
There is no need to be a Buddhist. If we end up in conflict with someone or we don’t
like what they have said or done, we don’t banish that person from the community.
Rather we bring mindful investigation to the conflict. We look for opportunities for
healing, reconciliation and for wise ways of respecting one another and making
room for differences. We try to notice any attachments, fears, projections and
confusions that unnecessarily complicate a conflict. This all expresses a dedication
of inclusion in a Sangha that aims to be a community safe for everyone to continue
along a path of spiritual maturation.

For the same reason, a Sangha is also a safe place to experiment with new ways of
being. As practice relaxes our insecurities and unhelpful habits of behavior, a Sangha
can be, for example, a place for compulsive speakers to explore speaking less, or
inhibited speakers to explore new ways of speaking up.
While there can be many benefits to practicing with others, we also must be aware
of possible problems. As soon as a group of people gathers as a community, a culture
is created, and cultures always have blind spots, or “shadows.” If we avoid being
involved with a community because it has a shadow, no community will ever be
adequate. If we relate only to the positive qualities of a community, we are doing
ourselves a disservice. If we relate only to the shadow, we are also limiting
ourselves. A function of Buddhist practice is to clarify and draw out the shadow and
see it in the light of wisdom and compassion. Without honest practice, a culture’s
shadow can remain hidden. A function of a Buddhist community is to receive help
from others in being honest in our social relationships. It is important to speak up
about issues one sees.

One of the common shadows of Buddhist communities is anger. This is in great part
because Buddhists value kindness and compassion. And the more a group of people
values kindness and compassion, the easier it is for anger and hostility to be pushed
into the shadows. People then become reluctant to show this side of themselves,
sometimes even to themselves. One function of mindfulness practice is to shine a
light into these shadows. However, even though developing personal mindfulness
may reveal some of what we have been overlooking in ourselves, a Sangha that
brings mindfulness to its own social dynamics can strengthen the practice of each
Sangha member.

Life is comprised of many encounters and we can learn about ourselves in each of
these encounters. In relation to Buddhist practice, we look at what we bring to each
encounter. How do we allow other people to encounter us, and how do we
encounter them? To meditate and to settle on oneself, and encounter the world from
that settled place is a wonderful thing. A practice community is a place to begin
learning to bring that settled place into the rest of our lives. It is a place where our
wisdom and inner freedom can be met and supportively mirrored by others. The
more mature practitioners in our Sangha the more facets there are to our Sangha